Rule not the exception!!!

Alright I guess it is time for one of my little rantings. First I want to say I love the movie He's Just Not That Into You why because it is the TRUTH!!!  That's right my single friends the man in the movie is telling the cold hard truth and I believe it is time we realize it.

With that said I want to focus on the fact that we are the rules not the exceptions and if we are the exception the person we are an exception to the rule for will let us know we are the exception not the rule.  Our friends cannot tell us we are the exception to the rule because the truth is they are just trying to spare our feelings. 

When reality finally hits, and with all the bs it hits hard, we tend to get mad at the person for us not being the exception, but that is in no way their fault.  After all we do not force ourselves to have exceptions to our rules right?  Here is where the ranting comes to the point of clarification.  We need to stop building fantasies in our minds and live in the reality.  Does this mean that you are not going to be upset or hurt from rejection? I am not exactly sure, but I don't think we will fall as hard.  

Now I am not saying give up on liking someone until they clarify for you that you are the exception.  I am saying take a chance, flirt a little, then leave it up to the other person.  Do not build the fairytale in your mind of how it will end because chances are it will end and it will not end the way you want it.

Now the optimistic part of me is coming out.  When we do not limit ourselves to believing we are the exception to the rule we allow ourselves to be open for the person we are the exception for.  A wise friend once told me that to hold on means I truly do not believe I am good enough to be the exception to the rule for someone. This is because holding on to the wrong person means I try to change myself to become what they want me to be so I can be the exception, but this is at the cost of who I am!  So by stop thinking we are the exception to the rule we will become it without forcing it.  I don't know if this all comes together, but this is something that has been bothering me for a few days now!!!  We are all someone's exception, but we don't get to decide who that someone is!  To all my single friends you are the exception to the rule, but do not ask me if you are for a specific person because if you do I will tell you NO!  Not out of being insincere, but because I am trying to spare your feelings in the long run!